Love comes later, breath comes first!

When we integrate meditation into the idea of “breath comes first, love comes later,” it deepens the understanding of how breath and love are intertwined through #HarmonyMeditation practices. Let’s explore that:

👉 #HarmonyMeditation as the Practice of Breath
Meditation, especially in its simplest forms, is primarily focused on the breath. In many meditation traditions—such as mindfulness, Zen, or Benevolence—the breath is the anchor that pulls you into the present moment. The act of focusing on your breath can be profoundly grounding, allowing you to let go of distractions and return to a state of pure awareness. It’s a direct way to be in touch with the present moment, which is often the first step in any spiritual or emotional awakening.

In meditation, you observe the flow of your breath—its rise and fall, the subtle pauses in between—without trying to control it or judge it. The more deeply you breathe, the more you enter a state of calm and clarity. By doing this regularly, you train your mind to be still and centered, creating the space for other experiences, like love, to emerge naturally.

👉 Breath as the Bridge to Love
#HarmonyMeditation quiets the inner chatter and brings attention to the body, specifically the breath, which is the life force/energy. As you breathe mindfully, your awareness shifts from the surface level of thoughts and worries to the deeper, subtler rhythms of life itself. In that space of stillness and presence, there’s room for love to blossom—not just as an emotion, but as an expansive, boundless #power.

When you meditate, you’re not “forcing” yourself to love; instead, you create a fertile environment for love to grow. Meditation softens the boundaries between yourself and the world around you.

👉 The #Harmony Between Mindfulness, Breath, and Love
Meditation creates a mindful awareness where the breath is the entry point into experiencing a more profound connection to yourself, others, and the world. Through this awareness, love begins to emerge—not in the sense of an overwhelming emotion or attachment, but as a natural outcome of being fully present and attuned to the interconnectedness of all things.

In a way, breath in meditation becomes the gateway to understanding and embodying love. As you breathe mindfully, you can experience a deeper sense of unity with your surroundings. You begin to see that love is not just something you “feel” but something you are—a state of being that radiates out when you’re grounded in the present.

👉 #HarmonyMeditation as the Practice of Patience
Meditation doesn’t rush; it unfolds naturally. You don’t force stillness, and you don’t force love. You simply practice being—being with your breath, being with your thoughts, being with your emotions. Through this practice, love arrives when it’s ready, when your heart has opened in its own time.

In a sense, meditation teaches you that both breath and love are states that don’t need to be chased—they simply need to be allowed. The breath is always available to you, anchoring you in the now. And love, like the breath, can become a constant, ever-present force in your life when you make space for it to emerge.

👉 #HarmonyMeditation as an Ongoing Process
Meditation isn’t just a practice you do for 10 minutes a day—it’s a way of living. As you bring this awareness into your daily life, you may notice that love becomes more spontaneous and natural. It may manifest as greater empathy, kindness, and a sense of deep connection with others, all stemming from your capacity to be fully present in each breath.

So, to tie it all together: “Breath comes first” in meditation because it’s the doorway to presence, mindfulness, and stillness. Love comes later, but only because it naturally arises as the result of being deeply present with your breath—and with life itself. #HarmonyMeditation is the practice that helps you stay in touch with that presence, where love can grow effortlessly, like a seed planted in fertile soil.

Going Forward To The Beginning…

A young girl asks herself “Who am I? What am I?”

She is too young to answer. There is nobody to guide her. The question remains unanswered and fades away with the time. The question fades away but a feeling of something missing stays. Time passes, she does not ask the question anymore, but still there is uneasiness inside her. She cannot put her finger on it. Her mind is strong, her will power is even stronger. She decides that it is not logical to have this strange feeling of something she cannot identify. So, she directs her mind to suppress this feeling. Time passes. Logical thinking comes easily to her, it becomes her. Years pass. Life happens. There is a lot of happiness, but also tragedies. She feels overwhelmed by this constant fight between logic and emotion, this feeling of fire inside her. She turns to Tai Chi. And then, seemingly out of nowhere (to her), her Tai Chi Master pulls her aside and tells her “I am going to help you”.  And so begins her journey to answering this long forgotten question “Who am I? What am I?”

Reset the old data with a clear direction…

I’m a total nerd, and I’ve accumulated a whole lot of data points about myself throughout my life. As I’m making new choices, that data is influencing me in unconscious and energetical ways. Typically it will follow the well trodden pathway that the continuous pattern of choices has created. And those patterns play out on both a small scale and larger life scale.

Through the work I’ve been doing at Harmony Meditation – the method of changing the conditioned nature of those choices requires setting a right direction & focus. There needs to be a core goal/target around which everything else in life can start to naturally self-organize. This sets a standard to gauge the actual value of those choices in a more intentful way.

And this is followed by the doing!! After setting the target, I remember not to overestimate what the process of reaching towards it will be like once I’m fully immersed in the journey. Some days it will be immense effort to go against that old data. But no matter what that is the way forward. The theory and cognitive concept can be crystal clear but the reality of how these ideas are applied has never actually matched up with the expectation itself. I’m testing my cognitive understanding with every effort I make and am realigning my choices and information with the new growth oriented goal I’ve set for myself.

So I use the time I have to make the most of the opportunities I have to grow while I have them. Resetting those old data points through practice and meditation, because I don’t want to lose the moments by being stuck in an old mindset, and emotional comfort zone. And through that I’m creating a new space in my life for even more chances at growth. To be ready to ride a new wave of possibility toward my goal. I’m building it up with consistency – aiming to get just one more step ahead of where I want to be.

Thank you me

Thank you me
The Bigger me
For seeing me
And loving me

For finding me
When I was lost
And accepting me
So patiently

For knowing there’s much more to me
The boundless, brighter, Bigger me

Thank you for being here with me
And in time, becoming me

Balancing it out

As personal life continues to cycle through it’s various phases, I’ve come to think of balance like a delicate maturity. A flower that rises with the understanding that two internal opposing forces need to find a way to coexist in harmonious equilibrium. For example – sometimes, you act logically, and other times be a little more emotional. There are moments when you need to be tough on yourself like a strict parent, and others when kindness and self-love is necessary. Stubbornly sticking to one approach, whether it’s out of habit or momentum, takes away from the truth and reality of the current moment. The pendulum swings back and forth, but the key is to not overcorrect when you find yourself stuck in one particular mode.

Finding that middle way can be hard. It’s so fragile and delicate, but why? Is it because the opposite extreme, is some kind of rebellious response to the consequences of the other? It feels almost childish most times — a lack of inner harmony that drives these swings wildly from one end to the other. Almost like a unconscious tantrum of sorts.

A pattern I’ve observed in my life is how I treat myself when I’m striving for something. Internal pressure builds and I push too hard, becoming a kind of dictator to my body and mind, expecting them to perform exactly as I demand. I continuously force and push myself, even when I’m clearly at my limit. Resilience is one side of this coin, which is certainly a positive quality, but when taken too far, it slips into obsession and toward burnout.

And when that happens, the pendulum swings the other way. I release the pressure, indulge in self-care, and shower myself with love. For a time, it feels like healing. But unchecked, that self-love becomes complacency, and laziness. And then, when I notice time slipping away, a creeping frustration and guilt sets in. That realization jolts me back into action, and the cycle begins anew. The dictator returns, and once again, I find myself at the other extreme.

Looking back, I can see how these cycles have played out over weeks, months, even years. I’ve come to realize that balance isn’t even about completely avoiding the extremes but rather learning not to overcorrect when I notice I’ve been stuck in one mode for too long. So this new idea of balance lies in harmonizing the two extremes instead of letting them compete for dominance.

It’s a journey, and I’m still learning. Over time, I hope to better embrace that subtle middle ground where all these occasionally opposing forces like logic and emotion, effort and rest, resilience and self-love, can all coexist in harmony.

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