When we’re young, we dream of growing up quickly so we can live life on our own terms. We imagine eating what we want, sleeping when we want, dressing how we like, earning money, creating things, achieving dreams.
But once we actually become adults, we come to a sobering realization: almost nothing truly goes the way we want. And eventually, most of us don’t even know what it is that we want anymore.
To make things more confusing, the guiding voices we once had—parents, teachers, mentors—are no longer there to say “yes” or “no.” No one is really watching us closely enough to point out what we need or who we are becoming.
Perhaps, a few years from now, AI will be able to give us razor-sharp feedback based on economic and social data. Maybe it will see us more clearly than any human can. But if that day comes, the feedback might be so brutally logical, so precise and systematized, that it leaves no space for grace, for softness, for the human spirit.
So what do we need now?
We need each other.
But not just as we are—we need to become bigger self for each other. Not our small, reactive, fragile selves. We need to grow—mentally, physically, spiritually—into something stronger and more whole. We need to be the kind of people who can truly support one another.
How do we become this Bigger Self?
There’s a book called ‘Bigger Self, Bigger Mind‘ that outlines a path, so I won’t list every method here. But one thing is clear: we don’t have infinite time. Humans, even at best, live to around 100. None of us knows how long we have.
The universe may be infinite. Some say we’re reborn again and again. But without preparation, without intention, how many lifetimes would it take to finally do what we were meant to do?
Life doesn’t offer a reset button at will.
If you’re reading this right now, this moment is your best moment.
Let’s become Bigger Self.
You and I, together.
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